Going to college and long distance relationship: will it work?

AP MTV MOVIE AWARDS A ENT USA CAAfter graduating high school, many couples have to face the rough decision about the future of the relationship. Whether one of the two is still in high school or both are going to separate colleges, choosing how (or if) to continue is not at all easy.

For most couples, this means entering a long-distance relationship. Going from seeing each other daily to as rarely as once a month is not at all easy, and it’s no surprise that nearly every long-distance relationship eventually ends by the end of freshman year. It takes a lot of work, and your relationship might not be up for it.

Talk as a couple.

Don’t make a decision on your own about whether or not to break up. Be responsible and fair to your boyfriend/girlfriend — include him/her. The best way to reach a decision about your future as a couple is to talk as a couple. Discuss how you both feel about possibly becoming a long-distance relationship and what potential you think your relationship has. Don’t assume that the other person feels the same way you do.

This guide will give you a few things to think about and bear in mind as you talk, but you should not make a decision on your own.

How do you feel?

First off, you need to decide how you feel about a long-distance relationship. To do so, you need to evaluate your relationship:

  1. Could this relationship have a future? Is this relationship something you really want to fight for? Do you value your boyfriend/girlfriend enough to do all you can to keep it going? Can you see yourselves together in the future, or has this relationship just been temporary? If you don’t feel strongly towards the relationship or that it has any future, that’s an important sign. How long you’ve been going out definitely makes a difference here — a three year relationship will be stronger than a two month relationship. My buddy’s girlfriend dropped out from the high school last year, she took the evening GED classes but he stayed at school. They were together just 7 months, tit was not even long distance relationship but they broke up just 2 months after she started her GED courses.
  2. How long will we be a distance relationship? Will you two only be apart for a year? Two years? Four years? While still tough, being apart your first year of college is drastically different from being apart all four. Remember that plans can change. Even if you two think you’ll be together the next year, there’s a strong chance that just won’t happen.
  3. Will this relationship hold me back? The “college experience” is definitely real, though just what it is will vary from person to person. You need to decide what you expect from college, and if can you still achieve that with your current relationship. Will your boyfriend/girlfriend limit you from your dreams?
  4. Am I up for this? Distance relationships aren’t for everyone. Are you up for the emotional wear and tear that one will put you through? The next section talks about traits that can cause trouble. How many of these do you have?
  5. How often will we see each other? Distance plays the biggest part here. Living twenty minutes apart and living ten hours apart make a huge difference. Can you handle how infrequently you’ll actually be together?

High school is a game

2aOne of the best pieces of advice I can give you regarding high school is this: high school is just a game. You’ve got to play to win. Stay with me for a second and hopefully you can understand. In high school, the most stressed factor is your academics.However, your grades don’t always tend to reflect your knowledge. Oh, one more thing, if you don’t want spend 4 years in a high school there are also free GED prep courses, people who follow these classes get a high school equivalency diploma in 1-2 months.

There is always that really smart guy who just doesn’t care and gets Bs, while a hard-working student will get As. In the end, who’s smarter?

The guy that got Bs without trying is probably a heck of a lot smarter than the one that got As. So what’s the key to getting those As? I’ve outlined here what I think are the 5 most important parts of getting the A.

1) Don’t Piss Off Teachers
This one is really a no-brainer, but you’ll notice that the more you piss a teacher off, the less likely of a chance you have of getting an A. Supposedly teachers aren’t supposed to play favorites, but you know what? They are human beings too. Just because they are teachers doesn’t mean that they won’t manipulate numbers to make sure you don’t do well. I’m not saying suck up to them, I’m just suggesting that you don’t get on their bad side. They’ll be a lot nicer come grade time.

A timeline for your senior year in high school


cubesSenior year in high school can definitely be a bit hectic. Even though you’re trying to enjoy your final year in high school, you also need to keep an eye on all kinds of deadlines to make sure you don’t fall behind and miss out!

I’ve come up with this timeline, going by what events happened during my senior year in high school. Hopefully, this list will help you out a bit. Please let me know if there’s anything important I’ve forgotten.Senior year is a big year, and it flies by, believe me. If you want to make sure you leave high school with every loose end taken care of, it helps to have a nice guideline of what to do as your year goes by. While individual parts will come with their own specific dates, some senior events will remain constant year to year.


  1. Get an idea what colleges you’re going to apply to. Research schools onlineand form an idea about where you want to go. Having a solid idea where you want to apply to early on will save you a lot of hassle down the road. If you decided to get the high school equivalency diploma online that’s a time to start learning! Sign up for the some courses, mostly these are free GED programs offered by the local community colleges. You can find a huge list of these free GED schools at Educate the USA


  1. Start your college applications. Hopefully by now, you have an idea what schools you’re interested in applying to. October is fairly early to start on your applications, which will give you plenty of time to write good essays, find the information you need, receive letters of recommendation, and so forth.
  2. Finish up any testing you need to do. Take the ACT/SAT if you need to.

Back to school tips for reinventing yourself


r52432For students, the first day back of school is very similar to New Years for adults: it’s seen as a time to make major personal changes. While for adults, the year is based around the calendar, for us students, it’s based far more around school. Therefore, for us it makes far more sense to apply things like self-improvement tips to the school year rather than the calendar year.

If you’re like me, then every year you decide the same thing: this year will be different. But, every year, things end up about the same.

So how do you make a lasting change? It’s not easy, and it will take a lot of will power, but it’s definitely possible.

For starters, have your ideas gathered about what you want to change. Is it something more internal, like maybe your study habits or your motivation, or is it something more external, like the way you dress or the way you act around other people? Maybe it’s both. I got this idea from EducateTheUSa a website about GED classes

External: Changing how others see you

If you aren’t too fond of the way you’ve come across to other people in your past few years at school, you might want to change the way you act in order to improve your image. Coming back from summer is a great time to do that because your fellow students have had 2 1/2 months away from you, which is enough time to allow a change in a person.

How to find solitude at college

1aIf you’re a shy person who needs your own space and time to wind down, dorm life will definitely take its toll on you. With all of the people coming and going, anyone who’s introverted will inevitably feel the need for some alone time to relax and wind down.

Depending on how many roommates you have and how they act, this can be easy or it can be tough. Some roommates can live together, each doing their own thing, and be perfectly happy. Others feel a constant need to interact with each other or with other people, keeping you from the down time that you need.

The best place to go when you really need some time is the library.

Even though the library will still have plenty of people in it, everyone there is doing their own thing. You can easily curl up in a corner with a nice book or your laptop and just relax. You don’t need to tell anyone you’re going to be there — just go there after class or after dinner or something and relax as long as you need to.

Alternatively, you can also go for a walk, go into town, and so forth. You don’t always have to have somebody with you. When your roommate is in class, that’s also a great time to have the room to yourself.

A little bit of solitude here and there is nice and all, but be careful about how much you isolate yourself — even if you’re introverted, a little bit of socializing never hurts and will actually help you feel better about yourself in general.

Where do you go to get away?

The 10 biggest differences between high school and college


When my freshman year began, I was taken aback at how different college life was from high school life. Although I definitely expected a drastic change, I wasn’t expecting it to be quite as it is. Here are the ten largest differences between the two that I’ve noticed:

  1. The rules are typically more lax. If you’re living on campus, you don’t really have a curfew and can do just about whatever you want, provided you don’t break any school policies. You don’t need your parents to sign forms, you can do it yourself. You can live as you want — if you want to put up a Pokemon poster in your room, then you can. If you want to stay up until 3 AM, you can.
  2. However, you’re responsible in college. If you do break a rule, it’s mostly up to you to handle the consequences — your parents won’t be as useful in getting you out of trouble.
  3. College classes move much faster, especially if you’re on the quarter system. If you have a 15 week semester and meet for class three times a week, you meet 45 times and that’s it. Compare that to high school, where you might have class 180 times in a year. There’s a big difference.
  4. Way more work is done outside of class. Not only do the classes move faster, but you’re typically expected to be study the material outside of class. In fact, if you don’t, you will have a much harder time grasping it.

Icebreaker Questions For Your Job Interview

pourtunitieDo you get jitters right before the interview? Do you break into a sweat at the sight of your interviewers? Do you get a mental blockage when your interviewers start questioning you? If the answer is yes, we have the solution for all your problems.

Here is a list of icebreaker questions which you can expect your employers to ask you, this will help you a great deal in getting comfortable with the whole atmosphere during your interview. According to career resources these questions will not only make you confident but they will also ease out the stress that a candidate might feel during his interview.

List Of Predictable Icebreaker Questions Asked By Interviewers:

  • Tell us about yourself? (always say something which you have not mentioned in the C.V)
  • Did you our site before? (This is asked to find out if you have done your homework or not.)
  • Did you have any problems in searching our office? (This is asked to see your sense of direction.)
  • Are you following the football world cup? (This or any other current events related question is asked to judge your knowledge about the current affairs.)
  • Why do you want this job? Or why do you want to work with this company?

These are a few most predictable questions, which are mostly asked by the interviewers to break the ice and make the candidate comfortable

Keeping a calendar is crucial in college.

3aWith tons of midterm dates, finals, varying class schedules, homework due dates, and various other events going on, it’s easy to forget a few important dates and miss out on something important.

Last year I learned how important it was for me to keep an active calendar going, one where I could plot out events that I could otherwise forget.

Before I started keeping a calendar, I would occasionally forget that my homework was due the next day or that it was a friend’s birthday.

I found that my best bet to keep track of everything was a calendar. Since I personally spend a ton of time on the computer, I wanted one that would integrate nicely with my computer and that I’d see often. I discovered that there was a program that did this well —Rainlendar. Rainlendar allows me to easily enter dates, events, and other items and keep track of them. It’s easy to add recurring events, and it looks downright sexy.

This isn’t meant to be a Rainlendar advertisement, though, but rather to encourage you to keep a calendar. If using your computer works best, use that. If you need a paper calendar, use that. If you like a small planner, use that. As long as you’re active in writing down the dates you need to remember and as long as you check the calendar frequently, you’ll be okay.

Summer assignments

2abEveryone always hates having that one class that has a summer assignment. Most of the time, it’s some AP class that wants you to read something and/or write something.

If you haven’t started already, then congrats on putting it off until the last minute. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. In fact, I’m doing it right now: I’m supposed to readGrapes of Wrath for my college, yet I haven’t even opened it. Oops.

Last year, I had to read 1984 and The Catcher in the Rye and write an essay about the two over the summer for my AP English class. The essay was due the first day back, and so many students didn’t get around to finishing it that they dropped out of the class before the first day even came.

Dropping out turned out to be a mistake for many, though. The next class down, English C (which was an honor’s class), only had a few open spots left, and they were quickly filled up. Everyone who didn’t get in the class had to drop to English B, a normal-level class.

College rankings: how much should they matter?

5aWhen you start looking into colleges, you’ll notice that all of them boast any weird ranking that they can. Their websites are always full of things like:

  • Ranked 6th for lowest dropout rate!
  • Ranked 8th for best feminist studies program!
  • Ranked 17th for nicest dorms!

Schools try to use these rankings to advertise and look impressive, but most of them really aren’t at all significant to you. What do you care about the feminist studies program if that’s not your major? Probably not at all.

These rankings are nice to look at and are good to talk about, but they shouldn’t hold much weight on your decision at all unless it’s something that you feel applies to you specifically, like if it involves your major. Think about it like in a professional sport — if you hear that such and such quarterback is the top in the league for scoring touchdowns on third down, that’s good and all, but aren’t there more important aspects?

The rankings that are a bit more important are the overall rankings.