Dear students, asking a girl to prom can be pretty nerve-racking, even if you think she’s likely to say yes. There are all kinds of doubts swimming around in your head: what if she says no? What if I get nervous and mess up? What if I come across as weird?
HOW ARE YOU GOING TO ASK?
If you’re trying to come up with a creative and cute idea to ask her to prom, that’s always a good choice, though I would only recommend it if you’re confident she’ll say yes (or don’t care if you get turned down). If you’re looking for cute ideas, I suggest you read my post that has some suggestions. I’m going to be assuming that you’re just going to walk up and ask her, however.
HOW TO ASK HER
If you know the girl well, you can make small talk with her beforehand. If you’ve barely (or never) spoken to her, just launch into it. You don’t need a fancy lead-in — just be forward and ask, “Will you go to prom with me?” and go from there. I wouldn’t even recommend asking if she has a date already — if you ask her, “do you have a date yet?”, it’s pretty clear what you’re going to ask next. You might as well get it over with.
Don’t make asking any more complex than you have to. You have survived high school, so you’ll also survive this moment! The more you think about it, the more nervous you will be. That said, there are some good tips to bear in mind:
DON’T PUT HER ON A PEDESTAL
No matter how attractive, smart, fun or cute the girl is, don’t put her on a pedestal. She’s just a human being — like you, your family, and your friends. Do your best to avoid giving her too much status in your mind — this will make you far more nervous than you would be.
IMAGINE HOW A CONFIDENT PERSON WOULD ASK HER
You don’t always have to be confident — sometimes faking it works just as well. Maybe your weight is bothering you or making you a bit insecure. Well, that’s something you can de so many things about, don’t you agree? Think to yourself how a confident person would ask her and keep that in the back of your mind while you’re talking to her.
DO NOT REHEARSE IT IN YOUR MIND
This is a huge deal. If you’re trying to script out what you’re going to say, don’t. When you talk, it will sound very scripted and rehearsed. There’s also no way you can predict what she’s going to say, so you may become flustered if she says something you don’t expect. If you start to feel your mind wandering down the road of rehearsing the situation, stop it. You’ll do much better if you handle the situation in the moment.
GIVE YOURSELF A CHALLENGE
This sounds a bit contradictory — why would you want to make it harder?
When giving presentations in class, I learned that I can feel less nervous if I try to do something above and beyond — maybe focusing on looking around a lot, or on my tone of voice. By making it harder for myself, I gained confidence because I knew it takes confidence to do what I was doing. And don’t forget that there may be times that creativity can be more important than intelligence, wouldn’t you agree?
How can you apply this to asking a girl to prom? Maybe ask her while she’s with her friends instead of trying to approach her when she’s alone. Approaching her in front of her friends takes far more guts, but it takes confidence to do it. That knowledge may help you feel more assured about asking her. It will also earn you brownie points because you’re asking in front of her friends.
If you’re not a confident person, then asking a girl is very nerve-racking, but it’s far from impossible. Do you have any tips that worked for you?